Most people would like their lives to be perfect before they 
allow themselves self-acceptance. For example, we want to change our 
weight before we accept our bodies. However, the truth is that 
self-acceptance and 
body acceptance are pivotal to lasting 
weight loss 
success and a lasting sense of fulfilment.
However, 
self-acceptance and body love can be tough concepts to grasp and even 
tougher to incorporate. The degree of difficulty doesn't seem to matter 
if you are thin, very large, or somewhere in-between. It takes time and 
persistence to create a new relationship between your self and your 
body.
In a certain sense, building self-acceptance and body 
acceptance can be compared to the 
techniques required for creating a 
homemade tapered candle. To make a tapered candle, you start with only 
the wick and some hot wax. You first dip the wick into a vat of hot wax,
 pull it out, and wait for it to dry. Initially, the wick is just a 
string saturated with wax, but after a few dips, a very skinny taper 
candle begins forming. Building a taper candle requires much patience 
and you will need to dip and dry the taper many times before you form a 
candle of the width you want.
This is how the process of 
self-acceptance works. If you currently dislike your body, your body 
parts, or your self, you begin with the wick, which represents your 
desire to have a different relationship with yourself. You dip your 
desire into a pot of new actions and choices. At first, you might not 
notice much change. Yet each time you dip your wick of intention into 
the pot, you coat your life with a new layer of self-acceptance. Like 
the gradual layering of the wax upon the wick, you can create positive, 
self-loving thoughts that begin to take hold and form shape.
Building
 self-acceptance and body acceptance is a process that requires effort 
and persistence. Here are six new ideas to build a new relationship with
 your self and your body today!
Make Peace with Yourself
Here
 is a newsflash: You do not have to believe everything you think! You do
 not have to take action on your self-critical thoughts. Additionally, 
you do not have to eliminate your self-critical or negative thoughts. By
 the time you have thought certain thoughts, they are already gone. 
Instead of aiming to be erase internal criticism, make your aim be the 
conscious addition of new self-supporting thoughts into your personal 
repertoire. Look into your heart and gather up some new ideas about 
yourself. You know that your heart is kind and compassionate. Open it up
 and let yourself have a little of your own love. Imagine yourself 
drinking deeply, taking this love in, digesting and absorbing all this 
love into your own physical 
body.
Look in the Mirror
Make
 the bold move to have heartfelt generosity for your body - before you 
lose weight or before you have the perfect life. Of course, you are 
going to hear your own objections of why you should not love your body. 
Let those thoughts pass by and then . . . surrender. Mov
e through your 
resistance and take this one little step to offer kindness to your body.
 Take a moment to look into the mirror, affirm how good you are, and 
admire and appreciate your courageousness. Look at everything you have -
 tangible or intangible - and feel grateful for your physical life. Your
 life may not be all good, but it is certainly not all bad either. Feel 
how wonderful it just might feel to ease up on yourself, even though you
 are not perfect or perfectly thin. Allow yourself to be clear that it 
is a feeling of confidence and self-acceptance that you are really 
wanting, not just the better body.
Live In The Now
When
 you are waiting for something to occur, you are not focused on what is 
occurring now. Yes, it is wonderful to be excited by the expectancy of 
achieving your goals. It is wonderful to feel the excitement fill your 
body as you imagine having what you want. However, it also necessary to 
bring your joy into this now moment of your present life. Instead of 
postponing your joy or pleasure, ask yourself how you can bring more 
meaning or fullness into your life today. What practical actions could 
you take that would make today better?
Accept What Is
For
 most people, accepting their current physical body is the last thing 
they want to consider. How can you accept something you want to change 
or something you hate?  You don't want to accept yourself right now. 
Instead, you want to change yourself or escape from who you are. 
However, there is no escape from anything. What you resist persists. 
Only by allowing yourself to accept reality can you then create 
something new. In other words, the only way out is through. The way to 
achieve the body you want is first to find harmony with it. Your body is
 not your enemy. Your body loves you and simply reflects your beliefs 
and energy contained inside of it. Gently ask yourself, "What are the 
feelings within me that have created this situation?" All along, soothe 
yourself with a wisdom that reassures that you are now creating an 
opportunity to know more about your heart, to know more about love.
Fake It Until You Make It
We
 are all human and almost everyone's body has some perceived flaws or 
imperfections. However, hating your body and negative self-talk is 
destructive to your happiness and your goals. To form a better 
relationship with your body, begin to talk to it. Tell it nice things, 
tell it that it is doing a good job of being your body. At first, you 
might resist, or you might not think you have anything nice to say to 
your body. After all, you are still blaming it for making you feel so 
badly. However, it is important to build this new relationship with 
yourself. So being somewhere, even if you have to fake it. In 
Alcoholic's Anonymous (AA) there is a saying, "Fake it until you make 
it."  Meaning, say and do the behaviors you wish to embody until they 
become real. You could say, "Even though I don't like my body in this 
current state, it is still my body and I choose to develop a new 
relationship with it." You might not be able to say you love your body, 
but you just might be able to call a truce. If you never begin, if you 
never risk, you will never know the divine truth of who you really are.
Treat Your Body Well
When
 you appreciate your body, you are able to work in partnership with it, 
as opposed to fighting it. Learn to be in loving acceptance of your own 
beauty. Allow for the possibility that you deserve what you have 
requested, and you deserve to know and appreciate who you are. Take a 
chance and begin to play on this Earth while you are in a physical body.
 For example:
o Engage yourself in activities that lift you up. Let go of what pulls you down.
o Consciously seek out more experiences that feel good.
o Focus your eyes on what is optimistic more then on what is pessimistic.
o Laugh so hard tears come from your eyes.
o Dance and sing with wild abandon while listening to your favorite song.
o Tell yourself you are beautiful.
o Swing on a swing in the playground.
o Mail yourself a love letter.
o Clean out your closet and get rid of any clothes that don't fit you.
o Wear clothes that you feel good in.
o Develop a partnership with food.
o Fall in love with yourself.
When
 you begin to accept yourself the way you are right now, you begin a new
 life with new possibilities.  By developing self-acceptance you empower
 yourself to accomplish your goals and lead a richer, more rewarding 
life. Practice the tips above and learn to unleash the love and success 
you are looking for.